Disability Sex Dating and Adult Chat

Sex and disability are rarely discussed in the same sentence. As a result more than 50% of disabled people do not have any form of a regular sex life.

Today's culture has tended to set various rules and ideas on how people should look and act. A person with a disability of some kind may tend to feel unattractive, or even less worthy of sexual partnership or relations, because they think that they can't live up to the idealized image today's society has set. If the disability happened later on in their life, the person may recall how they used to look and feel very unattractive by comparison to who they once were.

Due to the lack of most societies knowledge and sexual education, the disabled person's chances of meeting a potential sexual partner are greatly reduced. However if sex and disabilities was to be discussed more openly in our society today, then people would be much more educated about the topic.

Persons who are intellectually or physically disabled, either from birth or through an accident or onset of disease later on in their life, may find it very difficult to express their own sexuality in satisfying ways.

For example some males with multiple sclerosis (MS) may suffer from impotence or failure to obtain and maintain an erection.

Physical disability can most certainly prevent experimenting with many sex positions or cause problems with sexual arousal and reduce their general libido.

Some medical conditions, such as cerebral palsy (CP), can often cause uncontrollable muscle spasms or contractions, which can interfere with love making or masturbation and also cause clamping of the vagina making actual penetration impossible.

Some people with spinal cord injuries suffer reduced or lost sexual sensations in their genitals, but they may still feel the desire to have sex and feel sexual arousal.

Some forms of disabilities tend to impact a lot more in regards to a males fertility than a female, since men with some disabilities are troubled by impotence, whereas women with impairments are usually just as fertile as women without any physical disabilities or emotional disabilities.

Here are a few websites that cater for disability sex we found online using a Google, MSN and Yahoo search for websites offering disability adult dating and adult chat rooms.

Everyday there are new online dating and chat websites created specifically for persons with disabilities.

While many websites offer a variety of general chat rooms, and other websites provide adult chat rooms and dating services, there are far fewer focused adult oriented websites online that cover the more sexual side of relationships for persons with disabilities. here are a few we found.

independentliving.org is preparing a sex-positive resource book on sexuality and disability to be published by Cleis Press. They are hoping that their book will offer advice, and support for readers of diverse experiences (heterosexual, bisexual and gay, young and old, partnered and single, sexually experienced and new to sexual exploration) representing a wide range of disabilities. The guide will also reflect the experiences of people who live with chronic illness, pain, and other conditions that effect their sex lives. If you identify yourself as having a disability, they would like to hear from you!

Queers On Wheels is an organization that aides the sexual well-being of the physically disabled community, and welcomes people from all sexual identity groups, including those who identify as GLBTQ (gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, or queer ).

outsiders.org.uk - Outsiders is a group to help socially and physically disabled people in their personal development. A wide range of disabled volunteers are involved in running the support network, social events, the Sex and Disability Alliance, the V-Group for disabled women with sexual problems, an LGBT network,a social group for neuro diverse people, and research projects. We campaign for disabled people to be accepted as sexual partners.

The PeopleNet DisAbility - This website is for disabled adults wanting to learn more about love, sexuality, and relationships -- and maybe find that special someone. Check out the information on dating services which do not discriminate against adults with disabilities.

Deaf Queer Resource Center (DQRC) - This is the place to go for resources and information for, by and about the Deaf Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered communities.

Ragged Edge - The Disability Rag - A very interesting website that offers thousands of articles. Visit to find out more about the site and some of their other publications.

Sexual Health Network - People with a disability or living with an illness may wonder whether they can have children, if their partners will stay with them, if anyone will find them sexually desirable, or if they will ever enjoy sex again.

The artist, known for her nude photographic self-portraits, said this was "not surprising at all" and blamed non-disabled people for the hang-ups they have about sex with disabled people. The sex and disability survey found nearly one in three disabled people use a vibrator while slightly fewer use a sex toy.

Today's, and past society tends to believe that persons with intellectual and/or physical disabilities should be non sexual.

In a great deal of cases, sex education is being withheld from many persons with disabilities on the assumption that the individual 'won't need it'.

Sexual ignorance is an enormous hurdle for most of us when we are trying to figure ourselves out sexually. Our situations are made a lot worse when we are denied access to the little bit of sex education most able bodied people receive.

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Christan

June 22, 2009 - 15:48

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Sex is the part of our daily life here you can a find lots of handicapped persons they have so problem so they can't do sex with his partner. That's not means he can't do do his he/she has to face lots of problem when they are doing sex. Sex satisfaction is always needed in the life.

David

May 12, 2009 - 21:22

Subject: I can understand somewhat about the disability and non-sexuality...

I have cerebral ataxia, which being a possibly genetic disease has me wondering whether I should even consider dating with the risks of passing it on to any children that may come of it. I can't be extremely confident that a woman wouldn't find it disappointing that there would be such a risk if we were to have children, and I'm sure it would come up in conversation at some point, which makes it seem obvious that however this is handled somebody is bound to get hurt. There really aren't any famous words for or against dating with a disability.

Robbie Halford

April 02, 2009 - 15:42

Subject: Sex for the disabled. Whay is it considered out of bounds?

The net is filled with sites for people of all descriptions and preferences to find each other for friendship with the implicit purpose of experiencing sexual pleasure. Yet there are thousands of handicapped people- men and women- who have never, or have almost no opportunity- to experience this most human of all personal encounters. I happen to believe that Americans are the most generous and empathizing people in the world, and there must surely be people who would consent to help a handicapeed person experience sex at least one in their lives. Most handicapped people would welcome a friendship that was more intimate than opening the door or pushing us down the hall on weekend visits. If we could just focus on this as not just a charitable effort and compassionate thing to do, but in the same context of friendship and human understanding that prompts us do other charitable things, a lot of joy could be made available to some very fine individuals. We give our money, our time, and our efforts to comfort those less fortunate, but fail to consider the one human desire that makes most people complete. Isn't it about time to put aside our preconceived concepts that handicapped persons are asexual, have no libido, and have no desire for sex? Handicapped people are living human beings- just like anyone else! I would have no hesitation to ask a real friends to have sex with me and would consider it the untimate gesture of friendship if they consented. And I bet I'm not alone. The uninformed might call it mercy work- or tap it with whatever stupid label they wish- but I know it would be appreciated and handicapped people would not consider it anthing but an act of friendship, if offered and acomplished with all the humanity and consideration that normal friends give to each other. Handicapped people are not wierd, not nuts, not some off-the-wall creatures. They I simply real, living, breathing, feeling human beings.

Steve

March 29, 2009 - 20:00

Subject: Thanks for thre resources and support

Thank you for posting these resources, and I enjoyed the support from two of them immensely. I must agree that I find many people without disabilities seem to think that people with disabilities or even simple diseases should not be sexual. I think it is a huge mistake for those of us who suffer from debilitating medical issues to avoid human touch and intimacy. It is one of the things that can help us heal, and we need it more than most others.

I have enjoyed finding friends at this adult chat place, and have enjoyed the dating advice at this adult dating blog. I hope people will continue to connect with each other intimately, even if there are huckabees in the world who would prefer that we all just wither away in solitude rather than express our emotional and sexual needs.