Synopsis: Information concerning appropriate methods and etiquette when communicating with a person with a disability or health condition. Do not assume the individual wants to be pushed - ask first. Offer assistance but do not insist or be offended if your offer is not accepted.
The word "Etiquette", is defined as a code of behavior that delineates expectations for social behavior according to contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, or group. Manners is a term usually preceded by the word good or bad to indicate whether or not a behavior is socially acceptable.
The Americans with Disabilities Act, other laws, and the efforts of many disability organizations have made strides in improving accessibility in buildings, increasing access to education, opening employment opportunities and developing realistic portrayals of persons with disabilities in television programming and motion pictures.
Where progress is still needed is in communication and interaction with people with disabilities. Individuals are sometimes concerned that they will say the wrong thing, so they say nothing at all - thus further segregating people with disabilities. Listed here are some suggestions on how to relate to and communicate with and about people with disabilities.
Etiquette considered appropriate when interacting with people with disabilities is based primarily on respect and courtesy.
Positive language empowers - Some circles advocate that when writing or speaking about people with disabilities, it is important to put the person first. Group designations such as "the blind," "the retarded" or "the disabled" are inappropriate because they do not reflect the individuality, equality or dignity of people with disabilities.
Further, words like "normal person" imply that the person with a disability isn't normal, whereas "person without a disability" is descriptive but not negative. We must keep in mind that the people first disability rights movement and its thinking is almost unknown outside the movement itself, and many people with disabilities themselves, say that "People First Language" is actually a waste of time, unable to prevail in the goal it sets out to do by its very nature, and that people first language actually sets us back in the goal of integration and equality for people with disabilities - People First Language: An Oppositional Viewpoint.
Tips for Communicating with Individuals with Cognitive Disabilities
- Be prepared to repeat what you say, orally or in writing.
- If you are in a public area with many distractions, consider moving to a quiet or private location.
- Be patient, flexible and supportive. Take time to understand the individual and make sure the individual understands you.
- Offer assistance completing forms or understanding written instructions and provide extra time for decision-making. Wait for the individual to accept the offer of assistance; do not "over-assist" or be patronizing.
Tips for Communicating with Individuals Who are Blind or Visually Impaired
- Tell the individual when you are leaving.
- Speak to the individual when you approach him or her.
- State clearly who you are; speak in a normal tone of voice.
- Never touch or distract a service dog without first asking the owner - More on Guide Dog Etiquette
- When conversing in a group, remember to identify yourself and the person to whom you are speaking.
- If you are offering a seat, gently place the individual's hand on the back or arm of the chair so that the person can locate the seat.
- Do not attempt to lead the individual without first asking; allow the person to hold your arm and control her or his own movements.
- Be descriptive when giving directions; verbally give the person information that is visually obvious to individuals who can see. For example, if you are approaching steps, mention how many steps.
Tips for Communicating with Individuals with Speech Impairments
Tips for Communicating with Individuals Who are Deaf or Hard of Hearing
- If the individual uses a sign language interpreter, speak directly to the person, not the interpreter.
- Gain the person's attention before starting a conversation (i.e., tap the person gently on the shoulder or arm).
- If you telephone an individual who is hard of hearing, let the phone ring longer than usual. Speak clearly and be prepared to repeat the reason for the call and who you are.
- If you do not have a Text Telephone (TTY), dial 711 to reach the national telecommunications relay service, which facilitates the call between you and an individual who uses a TTY.
- Look directly at the individual, face the light, speak clearly, in a normal tone of voice, and keep your hands away from your face. Use short, simple sentences. Avoid smoking or chewing gum.
Tips for Communicating with Individuals with Mobility Impairments
- If possible, put yourself at the wheelchair user's eye level.
- Do not lean on a wheelchair or any other assistive device.
- Do not assume the individual wants to be pushed - ask first.
- Offer assistance if the individual appears to be having difficulty opening a door.
- Never patronize people who use wheelchairs by patting them on the head or shoulder.
- If you telephone the individual, allow the phone to ring longer than usual to allow extra time for the person to reach the telephone.
General Tips for Communicating with People with Disabilities
- Don't be afraid to ask questions when you're unsure of what to do.
- If you offer assistance, wait until the offer is accepted. Then listen to or ask for instructions.
- Treat adults as adults. Address people who have disabilities by their first names only when extending the same familiarity to all others.
- Relax. Don't be embarrassed if you happen to use common expressions such as "See you later," or "Did you hear about that" that seem to relate to a person's disability.
- When introduced to a person with a disability, it is appropriate to offer to shake hands. People with limited hand use or who wear an artificial limb can usually shake hands. (Shaking hands with the left hand is an acceptable greeting.)
Points to Remember
- Listen to the individual.
- Treat the individual with dignity, respect and courtesy.
- Offer assistance but do not insist or be offended if your offer is not accepted.
|Positive Speech Examples Vs. Negative Speech
|Affirmative Phrases||Negative Phrases
|person with an intellectual, cognitive, developmental disability
||retarded; mentally defective
|person who is blind, person who is visually impaired
|person with a disability
||the disabled; handicapped
|person who is deaf
||the deaf; deaf and dumb
|person who is hard of hearing
||suffers a hearing loss
|person who has multiple sclerosis
||afflicted by MS
|person with cerebral palsy
|person with epilepsy, person with
|person who uses a wheelchair
||confined or restricted to a wheelchair
|person who has muscular dystrophy
||stricken by MD
|person with a physical disability, physically disabled
||crippled; lame; deformed
|unable to speak, uses synthetic speech
|person with psychiatric disability
|person who is successful, productive
||has overcome his/her disability
*Some information from the Office of Disability Employment Policy and The U.S. Department of Labor