Online Disabled Dating: Getting Down to Business

Ian C. Langtree - Writer/Editor for Disabled World (DW)
Published: 2009/09/27 - Updated: 2024/02/10
Publication Type: Informative
Topic: Disabled Dating - Publications List

Page Content: Synopsis - Introduction - Main

Synopsis: Information and advice on costs involved when joining online disabled dating websites for persons with disabilities. If I'm going to get into online dating for the first time, where do I go? Or, if I'm a veteran of online dating how do I improve my chances of find that perfect soul mate that almost all dating sites and matching services promise?

Introduction

Online dating is a great way to filter the general population down to just those that you are interested in. There are also tools and features that allow you to get to know your prospective date before actually meeting in person.

Main Item

If I'm going to get into online dating for the first time, where do I go? Or, if I'm a veteran of online dating ("veteran" meaning I've had little success), how do I improve my chances of find that perfect soul mate that almost all dating sites and matching services promise?

Remember that in the previous installment you've now made a decision as to how much of our resources (time, effort, emotion, and money) you want to invest in finding your life partner through an online dating service.

Once you've selected the site (or sites) you are interested in, decide what information you want to share. Consider carefully how you describe yourself and what you are looking for in a matches. Have some great pictures ready for upload. You'll want at least one "head shot" and a few showing you in action. Go ahead and show your entire body - it's going to be seen, eventually. Also, be thorough but succinct when describing yourself. Remember, you are selling a very valuable product but you have lots of competition. Be clear and concise.

Here are a few other tips to maximize your chances:

Your profile:

Be Honest
Be clear about who you're looking for
Consider creating a few standardized emails that you will send as your initial communications
Upload a great pictures and a few others showing yourself in action
Update and change your profile frequently
Search and research
Have a plan for assessing your potential date
Make sure you know what you want to know before you move to the next step
Start with email, then chat, then a phone call
Do your homework and due-diligence
Make your first meeting informal

Maximize your safety:

Never give your real name, address, or telephone number to anyone until you are certain they are to be trusted.
Establish an email address just for online dating.
Never give financial information, credit card numbers, passwords, etc.
Plan to meet your date for the first time in a public place.
It's a good idea to take a friend, or let a friend know, where you are meeting. You may even want them to call you during the date to make sure you are okay.
Real relationships take time to develop. Be patient.
And just like dating under any circumstances, look for the red flag. If you see it, don't be discouraged, go back to the site and start your search again.

Previous Installments:

Disabled Dating: Online Dating Size and Scope

Disabled Dating: Online Dating Using Technology to your Advantage

Author Credentials: Ian is an Australian-born writer, editor, and advocate who currently resides in Montreal, Canada. He is the founder and Editor-in-Chief of Disabled World, a leading resource for news and information on disability issues. With a global perspective shaped by years of travel and lived experience, Ian is a committed proponent of the Social Model of Disability-a transformative framework developed by disabled activists in the 1970s that emphasizes dismantling societal barriers rather than focusing solely on individual impairments. His work reflects a deep commitment to disability rights, accessibility, and social inclusion. To learn more about Ian's background, expertise, and accomplishments, visit his full biography.