A Life's Lesson From The Front-lines of Developmental Disabilities
Published 2011/06/20 - (9 years ago). Last updated 2011/08/27 - (9 years ago).
Author: Sandra Houghton
Outline: I have seen firsthand the importance of teaching self-awareness and social communication to students.
Main DigestImagine a childhood without play dates or birthday parties, sleepovers or school dances. Doesn't sound like much of a childhood, does it? Well, for children with disabilities - developmental and otherwise - it is more often than not, the norm.
Having grown up with cerebral palsy, I know what it feels like to be "different." Even within my own family I felt like an outcast. My brother could do no wrong. My little sister had the looks and the brains. But I was just the disabled kid. I didn't have the opportunities that my siblings had no friends, no social experiences.
During my schools years I was a target for bullies; ridiculed for the way I talked, the way I walked, and even the way I dressed. On top of that, I had no friends and no support system. Sure, I had my fair share of sympathetic teachers, but as a whole, there were no systems in place to help me. I graduated at the bottom of my class and struggled as a young adult to find meaning and purpose in my life. Unfortunately, my story is no different than that of most students with developmental disabilities.
I got lucky when I connected with people from the Massachusetts Developmental Disabilities Council (MDDC), who helped me find an identity and purpose. It was a long and often painful road, but I am a better and happier person having gone down it. What I learned was this: the skills that were most important for me to grow didn't come from a textbook or a classroom; they came through developing what professionals today refer to as "soft skills."
I have seen firsthand the importance of teaching self-awareness and social communication to students. Youngsters and teenagers without disabilities learn these skills through peer interaction and social opportunities. Skills such as making and keeping friends, being a good listener, being a team player, and being assertive rather than aggressive are what contribute to future success as an adult. But for people with disabilities, the school environment provides little to no opportunities to develop these skills.
Fortunately I gained a support system through the MDDC and learned new advocacy skills that helped me to stand up for myself. I then became a Gopen Fellow where I developed the leadership course I now teach at MDDC, empowering others like myself to be agents of change.
The leadership series at MDDC consists of an interactive learning environment that focuses on the person, teaching them about themselves, their strengths and their abilities. It introduces different ways that people communicate, the way our body language speaks to people, and how attitudes and feelings influence our behavior towards others. It teaches students how to work together, how to dress for success, and how to be part of a team. Ultimately, the program works to improve a person's self-esteem, increase confidence to try new things, and develop the soft skills needed to succeed.
I struggled to get where I am today, and it pains me to see that young people are still facing the same struggles decades later. Understanding who we are, making a good impression and exercising basic social principles are a recipe for success, and we must invest time and effort to develop and expand training programs and support systems similar to those at MDDC for students in transition, as well as young adults. Focusing on soft skills will enhance opportunities for students and young adults with disabilities to improve their social skills, increase their self-confidence, and lead more productive lives.
School is tough - and it's even worse for children with disabilities, who are too often alienated from their peers and made easy targets for bullies. By sticking up for children with disabilities and fostering inclusive environments in our schools, we can dispel the indifference that shelters bullying. No one should feel left out.
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