The Brain Broad Talks about Lust: Helping Teenagers with Autism through Puberty and Beyond
Author: Tsara Shelton(i) : Contact: lynettelouise.com
In her latest Autism ABCs series Dr. Lynette Louise, aka The Brain Broad, presents her latest video for the letter L which, she decides, stands for Lust.
- Considering global efforts to stay home or shelter in place, Lynette has been releasing one short video daily, in an Autism ABCs series to YouTube.
- It is challenging for most parents to teach their children about sex, about consent, about appropriate behavior.
"I share this with you because I want you to understand the rest of the world doesn't want to deal with this. So it's up to caregivers, direct service providers, and parents. Come on, guys. Get comfortable."
That is the line Dr. Lynette Louise, aka The Brain Broad, leaves us with in a recent video from her Autism ABCs series. It is in the video for the letter "L" which, she decides, stand for "Lust."
Dr. Lynette Louise is a renowned international brain change and behavior expert specializing in autism. And, importantly, she is also the single mother of eight now grown children. Six were adopted, and four landed on the autism spectrum. (Only one still retains the label.)
Dr. Lynette Louise, aka The Brain Broad.
April is both Autism Awareness Month and Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month
Considering Dr. Lynette Louise is an expert in both, she always chooses to be busy offering help and answers free during this time of the year. Considering global efforts to stay home or shelter in place, Lynette has been releasing one short video daily, in an Autism ABCs series to YouTube. Each day represented by a new letter in the English alphabet.
"L" for lust is particularly timely. And incredibly valuable.
"I like using the word lust in this category because most people don't think of someone with autism, especially someone in a lower functioning situation, they don't think of it so much as a sexual drive as a puberty problem," she tells us. "But testosterone in boys, and in girls - when a girl is reaching her time for ovulation she doesn't just have estrogen and progesterone, she also gets testosterone to increase her sexual drive - so sexual drive is a big subject here."
It is challenging for most parents to teach their children about sex, about consent, about appropriate behavior. But when the person you are teaching has autism, or is otherwise uniquely challenged to learn social skills, understand their body, and/or has sensory issues, it is far more difficult.
"You're going to have to help them," Lynette tells us, up front and strong but with understanding. After all, she not only helped all of her own children learn to understand and appropriately explore their sexual drive, but she also travels helping families globally. (Season two of her international docu-series FIX IT IN FIVE is largely about helping a young man and his single mom during this phase of life.)
"If you think of it as a sexual drive, a lust - lust for life but also, lust for sex - then maybe you can separate it out for them. Here's an example. I say, 'Yes, that's a pillow. That feels great when you push your body against it. We all do it, though we do it differently. And we do it privately.' And before I worry about the rest, I teach private time."
Lynette's candor is refreshing, but also necessary. An example for those of us who will need to be candid as we teach this.
Not only are disabled and cognitively challenged people at greater risk of being inappropriate sexually, which leads to misunderstanding and uncomfortable cruelties, but they are also at greater risk of being sexually abused. Particularly as they misunderstand and act out and seek sensory gratification during puberty.
Taking on the role of teaching your child or charge about what is happening to their body, how to be private as they explore their lust, and who they can safely communicate questions or curiosities with, is not only going to help them grow a healthy understanding of themselves and sex, but also helps them stay safe. They are more likely to avoid abuse or tell you when something is happening to them.
"Think back," Lynette encourages us toward the end of the video. "Puberty's rough. Puberty with no assistance, no understanding of what to do with this feeling, and where it's okay and where it isn't okay, and who you can ask and who you can't ask; puberty without that guidance is a train wreck. It's a problem that's going to grow so big you'll end up maybe putting your child in a group home. When all you had to do is get comfortable with saying, 'Hey, maybe he's acting the way he's acting, because he's horny.' Or 'Possibly, she's acting the way she's acting because she wants to connect with somebody. And connect her genitals.' This is real. This is your job as parents and caregivers."
Please watch this valuable video. And, more than that, please share it with others.
The truth is, this wouldn't be nearly as hard for us to do and be comfortable with if our communities, our neighborhoods, and our societies were sufficiently educated and properly involved.
Autism ABCs with Dr. Lynette Louise: "L" is for Lust
(i)Source/Reference: Tsara Shelton. Disabled World makes no warranties or representations in connection therewith. Content may have been edited for style, clarity or length.
- 1 - Take a Look at This Heart | Love and Sexuality in the Disabled Community : Sarah Hess (2018/12/23)
- 2 - The Brain Broad Talks about Lust: Helping Teenagers with Autism through Puberty and Beyond : Tsara Shelton (2020/04/11)
- 3 - Over One-Third of LGBTQ Adults Identify as Having a Disability : RespectAbility (2018/07/01)
- 4 - Gender Dysphoria in Adolescents and Adults : Thomas C. Wess (2017/07/29)
- 5 - Gender Identity Issues More Likely Among Children with Autism or ADHD : Springer (2014/03/12)
- 6 - Dr. Ruth - America's Charismatic Sex Therapist : Retirement Living TV (2010/06/02)
- 7 - Museum of Sex Intimate Encounters : Noelle Daidone (2008/06/08)
• Disabled World is strictly a news and information website provided for general informational purpose only and does not constitute medical advice. Materials presented are in no way meant to be a substitute for professional medical care by a qualified practitioner, nor should they be construed as such. Any 3rd party offering or advertising on disabled-world.com does not constitute endorsement by Disabled World.
• Please report outdated or inaccurate information to us.