Red Flags and Common Schemes: How to Spot and Avoid Online Dating Scams

Ian C. Langtree - Writer/Editor for Disabled World (DW)
Published: 2009/02/12 - Updated: 2025/02/08
Publication Type: Informative
Category Topic: Disabled Dating - Academic Publications

Page Content: Synopsis - Introduction - Main

Synopsis: This article provides essential guidance on avoiding online dating scams, specifically tailored for individuals with disabilities, seniors, and anyone navigating the online dating world. It delves into common tactics used by scammers, like creating fake profiles or stories designed to evoke sympathy or urgency, which can be particularly effective against those who might be more trusting or less experienced with digital interactions. The piece offers practical advice on spotting red flags, such as requests for money or personal information, and suggests safe practices like using reputable dating sites, keeping personal details private, and being cautious with anyone who pushes for quick commitments. By educating readers on these matters, it equips them with the knowledge to protect themselves while seeking genuine connections, making it a vital read for anyone looking to safely explore online dating - Disabled World (DW).

Introduction

Google Trends shows that online dating is getting popular. As a result, the number of romance scams as well as victims are on the rise.

Main Content

The majority of online dating scams are from West African countries - Nigeria, Ghana, Senegal, etc. This is collectively called Nigerian Romance Scams - one of the various forms of Nigerian scams.

A Dating Scam normally involves these steps:

Note that the scammers steal attractive photos from other websites, so these photos have nothing to do with these scammers. The real people of these photos are also victims of romance scam.

How to Identify Red Flags Profiles or Messages

Scam profiles or messages share characteristics that can be generalized. Scammers Profiles are generally made up of these attributes:

What to do if you suspect that someone is trying to scam you?

Educate yourself about online dating scams and help yourself to know how to prevent it from happening to you. Next time when you use an online dating service, I hope you would be able to judge by yourself the credibility of profiles and messages.

Dating Scam Profile examples

Profile 1

I am emotional and passionate, open and kind, very serious about life. I have great sense of humor and I adore smiling. I am a good hostess, kind and communicable person, with good sense of humor, but have serious attitude to life, very vulnerable, also I am reliable, responsible and careful. I do not use make up, I always prefer natural beauty. I like sun, the sea and the beach. In the future I would like to have 2 children (a boy and a girl). i am looking for a real man, a real gentleman who knows how to treat a real lady like me, who is not afraid to have a beautiful young wife close to him and who will appreciate such kinds as loyalty and will be ready to give it in return. I hope to meet with the man of my dreams - very cheerful, generous, tender, kind and at the same moment strong and purposeful. I want to meet a man, who will be the only one for the whole life, who will love me. I would like to be treated like a queen.

Profile 2

I don't like fake people, drugs, or couch potatoes. I love diversity and I enjoy people that are down to earth. I desire to become a better person inside and out. I'm a music fanatic. I have a hunger to learn new things. One of my hobbies is studying photography. One of my goals is to become a model. I like positive people and I try to surround myself with people who have an open mind

Profile 3

I am an open, loving, and romantic woman who enjoys reading, listening to music, and watching films. I love to cook, especially for others. I have a sense of humor which is a little left of center. I 'll admit that I have a tiny bit of baggage, but it's more carry-on than check-in. I am definitely ready to meet Him, the man I am meant to grow old with. I think about him.

What is most important to me is to be with someone who enjoys my company, has a tremendous amount of warmth, integrity and loyalty with honesty and great affection. I am not a partier and would prefer to be with someone who, while he enjoys a good time, doesn't necessarily want to burn the candle at both ends. I am a morning person. I love to wake up, read the paper, go for a walk and start my day on a high note. I am totally over cynicism. I love a dry, but good-natured sense of humor. I am looking for someone who possesses personal style and takes care of himself physically and emotionally but but best I can take care of him better that he may think he do. Most of all, I want to meet someone who is not afraid of love, commitment and my free spirit. he most be attractive, sensitive and possesses integrity, warmth, and an earthiness that draws me in. I prefer a men who have experienced in life a bit. He must enjoy travel and if he doesn't , well its okay by me because I enjoy traveling , I have been so many country, the arts, and be well-educated or at least intelligent. I am not looking for perfection, just someone who is in touch with himself and is honest about what he wants in life. My perfect match will totally get me: my sense of humor, occasional intensity, and quirky habits. I will adore him , feminine men: soft skin, cute hair, a dab of lipstick. I love to be cooked for but can best do that , to be spoiled on occasion. I am not high maintenance, but flowers or a love letter are nice. I love celebrating big moments...and little moments.

Message Examples

These messages normally start with a sense of desire to know more about you and in return, show you more about me.

Message 1

My name is Helena and I am 29 years old. I have no kid. I am a very personable person and I like to be involved in a lot of things. I have a problem at the moment which is just a minor setback for me and I have a lot to catch up on when I return home. I don't have anyone in my life (friend or family) at this time and I do get lonely. I'm using this as a means to meet new people and stay updated on fashion!!. I also will pursue my modeling career upon my return home. I am not looking for love, just a companion. If love should fine me then I'm open to it, I will like to hook up sometimes but at the moment I am having a big problem That's is making things hard for me that's why I said when I return don't know if you care to know what my problems are. Hope to hear from you soon! u can email me directly to my email.

Message 2

I am very family oriented, although i have no children. I am definitely real and in West Africa now. Remember that your best friend in the whole world was a total stranger at one time. Get to know me, there are no complications in my life and i'm versatile like vanilla ice cream. I am, can be and will be full of nice surprises. Most of all, i'm sincere I'm not looking for one nighters or friends with benefits. I want someone to share love and life with. ;-)

My man would be my angel. And how do we treat angels With respect and love. And like we really appreciate them.

I'm not into the nightclub scene and my life would appear boring, but I have fun and those around me do also. I don't have or want "drama".

I'm only here to find my partner, than i'm done with online chat. I want someone attractive and healthy but not perfect, and if you have kids... great !

Either way " I want to have kids in my life also " I feel that I would be a great mother if the right person is willing to share that LIFETIME responsibility.

My group of friends is small by choice and there's room for another. If your heart is beating a bit faster now... it could be you. Anyways im presently in west africa, Nigeria for my job(work for an importing company as the sales rep. Sells and Exports African Fabrics (Attire), If you've got a Y! IM to communicate, you can as well just put my first and last name together you'll get my IM at yahoo.co.uk or hotmail.com

hope to hear from you. Looking forward to find out the chemistry between us ;) Ur #1 Fan, Toby.

Message 3

Hello, This is Angelina from Cowandilla in Australia ,i go through you profile its look nice and lovely. I am a sexy, loyal, and devoted woman who's looking for a man to please me. Someone to share personal moments with, enjoy life and to firmly hold the blessings of a lasting and undying happiness. I am willing to relocate to a secure foundation a steady relationship and to meet the terms, I'm a strong, sexy, smart, independent female with many goals and lots of drive. I like romantic evenings and bedroom talk. I'm a real woman looking for a real man, and i hope you will be the real man to me. If you're really interested you can e-mail me direct to this address or add me to your messenger list.

Message 4

This how it happened 10yrs ago my father died in terrible car accident and before then i was doing fine had a good job and my own place which i gave up because we had to sell the family house because there was a big mortgage on it, my sister had her own problems at the time and she has her own place and family so i couldn't leave my mother on her own so we rented a house together, we where both doing fine then b4 she had a cancer and died when i could not get money. some days after i heard a friend of my who lives in nigeria she has an accident and she was in the hospital i have to move there to see her health when i arrive there i lost the hospital address and it night and i can't get flight at night cos it too dangerous for me to go home at night i have to log in a hotel for me to go the next day in the midnight some mens came so they attack me and stole all my money goods i brought In the hotel and they ran away but they did not hurt me i try to explain things to the hotel but they will not believe me so they said all they need is there money so right now am stuck in a hotel in nigeria and all i now to come back home is to pay the hotel bill and i will be glad if you can.

Dating Profile Red Flags

Tip 1: Red flag in general

The overall pattern of the dating scam is that a person who may contact you in order to obtain money. Scammers will use a false gender, name, age, country, occupation. They will describe them as honesty, kind, loyal, truthful, sweet, and caring. They will make up stories about their misfortune and are in-need of your help.

Tip 2: Red flags in username

A scammer's username normally consists of love, trust, or sympathy related terms which are often combined with common first names. Common love, trust, or sympathy related terms include luv, love, nice, honest, faith, sweet, baby, care, angel, lonely, alone, 4u, real, etc. Commonly used first names are nancy, suzy, monic, cyndy, debby, sonia, jane, lori, laura, vanessa, etc.

Often the username can also contain some numbers at the end to help the scammers easily remember or track their uses on different dating sites. For example 'Vivian' may have '001' at the end.

Tip 3: Red flags in email address

The most popular used email service by scammers is Yahoo Mail. Patterns in email addresses are similar to those in scammer usernames.

Tip 4: Red flags in dating profile description

The dating site scammer often polish their personality traits in their profile as "easygoing, honesty, quiet, kind, loyal, truthful, straight forward, sincere, loving, understanding, caring, elegant, sociable, sensitive, gentle, cheerful, optimistic, romantic, warm, cuddly, hard-working, goal orientated, ambitious"...

Scammers use terms that are not normally used in the area location which they list in their profile. One scammer claimed to be in Australia and listed one of her favorite things as summer long rides on a motorcycle heading towards small villages. That's an obvious lie as there are no villages in Australia except farms. People don't use the word "village" in Australia for the meaning of rural regions or countryside area.

Tip 5: Red flags in chatting, messages or emails

This is a list of red flags that normally will happen after communications with the scammer started, either by way of text chat, on-site messages, or emails.

Tip 6: Red flags in the member's age

Age for female scammers are normally span from 25 to 30 and they always try to target male dating members who are between 40 and 60 years of age because this age group is normally financially secure.

Age for male scammers are normally span from 40 to 50 and they always try to target female dating members who are between 40 and 60 years of age.

Tip 7: Red flags in photos

Most of the female scammers profiles use photos stolen from modeling websites, so the photos look neat and are very professionally taken.

Many male scammers use photos that appear to be everyday snaps. Scammers from African countries will send a passport-like photo of themselves. It will be very grainy and somewhat aged.

Tip 8: Red flags in English grammar and spelling

Grammar and spelling errors are normally everywhere in a scammer's profile and message. You can easily spot it, especially when the scammer shows you he/she has good education background such as Masters degree.

What to do if you have become victim of online dating scams?

If you think it is a scam, it probably is. The red flags are always there. Anyone asking for money online, when you have never met them in person, is pretty much a scam. Don't fall for it.


Author Credentials: Ian is the founder and Editor-in-Chief of Disabled World, a leading resource for news and information on disability issues. With a global perspective shaped by years of travel and lived experience, Ian is a committed proponent of the Social Model of Disability-a transformative framework developed by disabled activists in the 1970s that emphasizes dismantling societal barriers rather than focusing solely on individual impairments. His work reflects a deep commitment to disability rights, accessibility, and social inclusion. To learn more about Ian's background, expertise, and accomplishments, visit his full biography.

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